Let's Live Life Colorless,life is not a competition or just a rap song.
People often ask me why I don't see the world through the lens of race first.
The truth is, I was raised differently by really religious parents (no wonder I rebellion as soon as I turn 18).However,Im greatful for the introduction to Christianity now(thats why I turn to my bible instead of drugs or alcohol when I have a problem).Yet,I am not perfect,still a work in progress.
I was taught not to judge people by the color of their skin, and not to assume everyone from one race will treat you the same because of what someone else did. Do racism and colorism exist? Absolutely. I know they do. I've experienced prejudice myself. But I've also been betrayed, helped, encouraged, and supported by people from every background imaginable.
Because of that, I've chosen a different way to live.
I see people as people.
I'm what I jokingly call an equal opportunist. I give everyone the opportunity to show me who they are before I decide what kind of person they are. I don't let the actions of one individual become my opinion of an entire race.
Life is too short for that.
Of course you'll meet ignorant people. You'll meet prejudiced people. You'll meet manipulative people. Sadly, that's part of life. But I've always tried to surround myself with open-minded people who care more about character than complexion.
As I got older and studied psychology, I learned more about bias and how environments shape people. I realized that people aren't born racist or prejudiced. Those beliefs are usually learned somewhere along the way. Understanding that helped me become even less judgmental.
That doesn't mean I ignore racism.I have met racist, corrupt,greedy government officials and judges such as Judge Amy and experience racist court systems such as North Corolina,Alabama and more that stole what belong to me because I am black and used envious relatives as scapegoats.
It means I refuse to become the very thing I dislike by judging entire groups of people.
Recently someone came into my images and turned what was supposed to be a positive, welcoming space into a discussion about race, colorism, and comparisons between women in the music industry. They even posted before-and-after photos of female celebrities, discussing surgery and skin tone.
Honestly...
I don't understand why another woman's appearance is anyone else's business.
My platform isn't here to tear women down. It isn't here to compare skin tones or argue over who had it easier. My platform welcomes everyone.
I never set out to become a singer. My passions have always included dancing, photography, art, computers, engineering, programming, and writing. Music has simply been something that helps me express myself. Sometimes a song won't leave my head until I write it down.
That's why I create.
Not for fame.
Not for validation.
Not because I dreamed of signing with a record label.
Ironically, I've received collaboration requests from people of every race and even record label offers sitting in my email. I honestly feel bad because I'm terrible at checking my email, and some of those offers sat there for months. If anyone thinks I ignored them because I thought I was too good, that's simply not true. Life got busy, and checking email has never been one of my strengths.
But even then, getting signed was never my goal.
I simply enjoy creating.
What saddened me wasn't someone's opinion.
It was watching someone bring bitterness, insecurity, and negativity into a space that was never about that.
I've seen people argue that certain complexions have it easier in entertainment. That's not really my place to judge. What I do know is that I've seen incredibly talented women from every complexion. Many of them could succeed because they're genuinely gifted.
Talent matters.
Character matters.
Work ethic matters.
And how you treat people matters.
For me personally, I don't believe in changing myself to make strangers approve of me. Surgery isn't something I want. Bleaching my skin isn't something I want.
I'm happy exactly as I am.
My goal has always been simple:
Eat.
Sleep.
Stay Black.
Die happy.
No matter what your complexion is, I hope you learn to love yourself.
Because if you can't love yourself, you'll spend your whole life chasing approval from people who were never responsible for giving you your worth in the first place.
Sometimes people wonder why opportunities stop coming their way. They blame race. They blame other women. They blame the industry.
But sometimes the answer isn't your appearance.
Sometimes it's your attitude.
If someone watches how you behave after receiving opportunities and sees bitterness, manipulation, negativity, aggression, controlling behavior, or constantly inserting yourself into other people's lives, they may simply decide they don't want to work with you.
Character follows you into every room.
I've been welcomed by people from every race without anyone suggesting I change my skin tone or become someone I'm not.
That's why I refuse to use my platform to attack entire groups of people.
Yes, I've encountered racist individuals. Yes, there are people in positions of power who abuse that power. Those experiences are real, and they shouldn't be ignored.
But those experiences also don't give me permission to decide that every person who shares their skin color is exactly the same.
That would be unfair.
Life has introduced me to incredible Black people, incredible White people, incredible Asian people, incredible Latino people, and incredible people from backgrounds I knew very little about before meeting them.
Good people exist everywhere.
Bad people exist everywhere.
My psychology education taught me something I'll never forget: people are deeply influenced by their environment. If someone only grows up surrounded by one way of thinking, that may become the only way they know the world. But we all have the ability to grow beyond our environment if we're willing to learn.
That's the life I've chosen.
Not colorless because I ignore culture.
Not colorless because I deny history.
Colorless because I choose to judge individuals by their character instead of assuming who they are before they speak.
Please don't come onto my platform expecting me to spread hatred toward any race or tear down other women to make someone else feel better.
That's simply not who I am.
I'd rather spend my energy celebrating people than dividing them.
Let's live life a little more colorless, Shallow less and a lot more compassionate.
#Self Help,#Self Love,#Mental Health,#Take the cocktail if offer#Peace.
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